244 Part III: Different Strokes These ED drugs dont work for every impotent man. Some men who are on certain heart medications arent allowed
any longer, that doesnt mean that he can never perform sexual intercourse again. Medication isnt the only solution to impotency; a variety of implant devices are available to allow a man to have erections whenever he wants them. For more information about different treatments, see Chapter 20. A benefit of aging: No more premature ejaculation Many men who suffer from premature ejaculation (when a man ejaculates before he wants to) when theyre younger find that, as they age, that particu- lar problem often goes away. If their wives really enjoy intercourse, this can signal the start of a whole new phase of their sex lives. (For more on prema- ture ejaculation, see Chapter 20.) The Psychological Bonuses The effects of aging go beyond physical changes for both partners. Their atti- tudes about sex may change for the better as well. When two people first get married, their libidos are so high that they make time for sex even if time is short. As the years go by, and particularly as chil- dren arrive on the scene, finding time for sex can become more difficult. And in these days when both men and women are in the workforce, not only is time often in short supply but energy is as well. In the so-called golden years, time suddenly grows in much larger supply. The kids are out of the house (I hope), and even if both partners arent fully retired, in all likelihood theyre not working full time. These changes allow the couple to make love at various hours of the day, and in various places – not just at night in the bedroom with the door locked. Making love in the morning isnt only advisable because it adds variety. The male sex hormone, testosterone, is at its highest level in the morning; if a man has problems with impotency, they are least likely to show up in the morning. Also, after a good nights rest, energy levels may be higher. Just as during any other period in your relationship, the more effort you put into better lovemaking during your golden years, the more you get out of the experience.
